There is a crisis that stares us in the face everyday and I fear that our ignorance of this particular problem will shape future generations for the worst. Fortunately for us the solution is right under our noses.
What is this problem that plague’s societies far and wide?
The crisis that we face every single day is a Crisis of…
Now words in themselves are not the problem.
The real problem is ignorance or the absence of the knowledge of purpose.
Yes, words have their purpose. They can either give life or destroy if misappropriated.
This however, is more apparent in the lives of our children and I cannot over emphasize the importance of the way we as parents, use words.
The lack of this very basic knowledge will affect the way we as dads relate to our children when under pressure.
Now, I am not the worlds most perfect dad [far from it]. In fact, I am not even a great dad. What I am is a working progress and what I’d like to share here is both from personal observation and experience.
Words are a very powerful tool. Misappropriation of the same may result in what I call the ripple effect disaster. This is where our children will say and do what we do not want them to, but it is a direct result of the observations they have made and more-so the words that we have spoken and those that they have heard. They in turn will pass it on to their children, who will pass it on to theirs and so on and so forth.
To fully understand the impact that our words have I would like to draw your attention to 3 principals of a seed.
Like mango seed, apple seed, orange seed or any other seed that comes to mind.
The 3 Principals of a seed
- The seed for everything is contained within itself.
- The fruit harvested will always depend on the seed sown.
- A seed will only germinate in the ideal environment.
Allow me to break these 3 points up even further.
The seed for everything is contained within itself
This simply means that an apple has apple seeds, an orange has orange seeds and so on. We will never find an apple seed in an orange.
The fruit harvested will always depend on the seed sewn
This simply means that out of a mango seed will come a mango tree, an apple seed will produce an apple tree and an orange seed an orange tree.
Likewise a monkey will never give birth to a pig or a horse to a cow and pigs will never fly.
A seed will only germinate in an ideal environment
I like this general definition from Wikipedia on the term germinate:
“In a more general sense, germination can imply anything expanding into greater being from a small existence or germ.”
For a seed to expand into greater being and bring out the tree and bear the fruit in it the conditions need to be suitable.
What does all this have to do with our words anyway?
Well, you see…
Our words are…
So with our new found understanding from the principals of a seed we can now see how:
Negative words will produce…
Positive words will produce…
A line from the book of Proverbs sums this principle up well.
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21”
When words are used in a negative manner, the adverse effects may not be visible initially but that seed will one day bear fruit.
This is also true when words are used in a positive manner.
This is why it is imperative that we should bless and continue blessing our children.
When should you begin blessing your child?
Right now. Start speaking life, to the life that is being formed in your partners womb. As baby begins to take shape and you begin to see the kicks start speaking to him/her.
The experience is amazing as they begin to respond to your voice and a feeling like nothing you’ve ever felt before begins to spring forth inside of you.
What do I say, you ask or how do I bless them?
Just speak over them. I am concerned with my children’s character [and I am sure you are too] and I normally say something along these lines:
“You are a loving and caring child. The fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, self-control, humility and gentleness will be evident in your life. You will have a heart for others and will care for those around you.”
My oldest daughter Sharon shows interest in teaching and singing, my 2nd little girl Laneyah is already showing interest in singing and music and her brother Anton in sports and so I mention these when I bless them.
My oldest son Tyrell shows a lot of interest in drawing and rugby and honestly I would rather he didn’t but the last thing I want to do is to kill his dreams.
Where do I say this?
I often do this while they are asleep or sitting on my lap or when I just sense the need for it. I lay my hand on their head when they are asleep and speak life and this is something I would like to encourage you to do.
Together we can make it a good habit and watch as our words begin to bear good fruit.
The ideal environment for words to bear fruit
The ideal environment for our words to germinate is out of our control. Let me paint a clearer picture of the environment I would consider ideal and when I hope the words I continue to plant will bear fruit.
One day one of my children may be faced with hatred, it is there I would expect them to show love and kindness. Faced with temptation or peer pressure; it is there that I would expect them to exercise self-control, faced with panic – patience, faced with problems – joy. Yes. Problems – joy. When was the last time you solved anything by worrying. You get the picture.
For every positive word that is planted, I am expecting it to flourish in every negative environment or situation that my child will face.
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