What do you want your children to say about you?

What do you want your children to say about you imageHave you ever wondered what your children will say about you? What words will they string together to describe you? What will they tell their friends? What will they tell their children’s children about you?

I have.

You see I am very conscious about my legacy. Especially when it comes to the lives of my 6 children and what I’ll leave with them when I am gone. I guess this is one of those things that haunt you once you become a parent.

I’d like to share an experience that I had encountered that has made an impact on my life as a dad.

I had attended the funeral of a grand aunt who fell victim to cancer late last year. She was only 48. Her oldest son, at 21 years of age, spoke at her funeral and this is part of what he had said.

“My dad was there for my mom till the end. Though their marriage was in black and white as they were divorced, he never gave up on her. I am proud to be a son to my dad.”

Those words hit me as I sat there listening to this young lad reminisce of his mom and stand up for his dad. Here was a lad who had witnessed an ordeal that was none the pleasant and yet he had the courage to stand in front of his mom’s family and friends and vouch for his dad.

If your in-laws love you to bits then count your blessings and sing hallelujah, because you are part of the minority.

I never got to know my father-in-law. But I think if we had met he would have brought out his shotgun.

Don’t think that your father-in-law hasn’t thought about it.

Anyway-

Those words played on in my mind after that, “I am proud to be a son to my dad.”

They speak of the impact that a dad has made in the life of his son, even with a few mistakes along the way. Sometimes I wonder whether I’ll be able to make the same impact in the lives of my children.

Whether they’ll say what this young man said, on a day when it mattered the most.

How do you leave a legacy that will result in your children being proud to call you dad?
What do you want your children to say about you?

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4 thoughts on “What do you want your children to say about you?”

  1. This is spot on! You’re absolutely right that the role of a father extends long after we pass away – the things we teach our children and the way we bring them up stay with them for a long time. It’s really important that we do it the right way!

    Leaving a legacy isn’t just for us – it’s for our children too!

    1. “…the role of a father extends long after we pass away” Awesome words Paul! Thank you reading and sharing this post.

  2. So true, I guess we all want to leave our children with a positive outlook on life and a lasting legacy so to speak.

    As they are now teens, I have had to embrace the changes, thinking and acting accordingly. My one constant in all of this is God. So I direct them both to HIM and to his words because that is the only thing that I know is unwavering constant, true and lasting.

    1. Thank you Lagilagi for reading this post and sharing words of wisdom. Totally true statement “we all want to leave our children with a positive outlook on life and a lasting legacy.”

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