When talking to yourself is a good thing and why you should do it more often!

talking-to-yoursel-is-a-good-thingThere’s something about a white Pierre Cardin cotton tee that can make a man feel sexier than he actually looks. And I could almost make out the abs behind the flabs as I watched the shattered reflection of this handsome young man, over a dark brown wooden wardrobe, slip on the hugging pair that his beautiful wife had so generously bought for him. Ooh…such comfort was made for kings.

Standing there in my towel and fitting tee, for some reason I felt compelled to start speaking life and declaring positive confessions this particular morning. So without giving the urge a second thought I began blurting out:

“I am as fit as an eighteen year old. I have a high metabolic rate and I love to exercise and work outside with my hands. I am an intelligent young man. I am creative, handsome and strong. Whoah!! There’s power in words!”

I felt empowered by the very words that I was speaking and it was amazing!

Prior to this whole “I am handsome and strong (you better know it) confession…” I was overcome with a feeling of worthlessness as I sat trying to get some personal work done on my laptop at six in the morning. Suddenly out of the blue I felt frustrated, I couldn’t think and felt like I was running late with time catching up on me.

I felt worthless, useless and lost. What was I late for? My destiny? My calling? My purpose? I guess it felt like nothing seemed to be coming together and I was procrastinating and wasting time. Have you ever felt like this?

How do you deal with this feeling?

Do you wallow in self pity accepting your circumstances?

Do you let it get the best of you and roll over and just die?

Or do you let it fuel the determination in you to reach out and press on towards your dreams and visions?

How do you respond in moments like these?

There was once a young man, by the name of David, who was also plagued with a similar situation. He had just returned home with his men and found it burnt to the ground. To make matters worse their wives, sons and daughters had all been taken captive by the enemy.

What did David do in the face of this devastating situation?

His response can be found in 1 Samuel 30:6

“And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.”

Pressed in on all sides and with no one around to encourage him, he would have thought about giving in and giving up his leadership role. But David, encouraged himself in the Lord. I can almost picture him talking to himself saying:

“This situation is not going to get the best of me. I shall not be moved or shaken. I am a mighty warrior! I am strong. Handsome. And married! – so Cleopatra better stop checking me out! I’m going to get my women and children back!”

I normally tell my kids that people only fall into two categories when they talk to themselves (or when they find me talking to myself).

They are either –




Sometimes some situations in life will try to get the best of you and there may not be a friend around to listen, lend a hand or be that shoulder you can cry on. You may be alone, confused and scared or feel worthless, useless and lost like I did.

It is in moments like these that you need to get up and encourage yourself.

It is in moments like these when talking to yourself is a good thing.

But, instead of waiting for those moments…why not start now!

So go on. Don’t be shy! Get up and yell out what you’ve wanted to tell yourself for some time now.

Shake somebody’s hand and tell them you’re good looking.

And if people begin looking at you strangely, just tell them that you can’t help it…

You’re Brilliant!

Start by leaving a positive confession about yourself in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

8 thoughts on “When talking to yourself is a good thing and why you should do it more often!”

  1. After reading your article I realized that it is true people will look at you differently and say negative things about you most of the time but it doesn’t matter what they say or think, the important thing is to be yourself and believing that we can do better and succeed in all things with help of our loving God.

    thanks Naibuka this article turned my frown upside down 🙂

    1. Thank you Teca! And yes you can succeed in whatever you put your mind to. I simplify it for my children by telling them “You just put your mind to it…and do it!” To God be the glory of course!

  2. I am great in the mind of Christ!….a temple of God! I’m a mental genius! I can master every subject!….I am the Top of my class!….the head and not the tail! Surely goodness and Mercy Shall follow me all the days of my life!…I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever because I am royal!! Kaila!

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