Before the Game

So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31

Lets face it! We’re so used to our comfort zones. How often do you step out into the unknown? Do the things that scare you? Take that blind leap of faith that you need to take? How often do you challenge yourself? And I mean… really challenge yourself to break new barriers and push the boundaries a little further?

Life’s too short for you to be complacent.

So do the things you want to do and can do while there’s still breath in you.
Get up.
Be counted.
And make a difference.

That bench you’ve been sitting on has been warmed long enough. Don’t you think?

I know the one I’m sitting on certainly has.

A few years ago, while at the Pacific Community (SPC), I had been given the priviledge to manage our volleyball team that had entered the Business House Volleyball Tournament. This was not only a challenge but also a process of discovery on my part as I had never done this before.

Always remember:

You will not recognize greatness in you being released if you never try.

As the team prepared for our first game I was contemplating what I could possibly say to inspire and encourage them.

Today, my oldest son Inoke will get the privilege to represent his school, Marist Brothers High School, for the first time in the Under 14 grade.

Something he has diligently been training for the last few weeks. The enthusiasm with which he talks about rugby is fueled by his passion and commitment to the sport. He’s been passed over a few times for the bigger and faster boys (or at least that’s what he thinks) and my advice to him has always been the same whenever he rants about it.

Put your head down, train harder, push yourself further. Your time will come.

As a parent I want my children to continually break new boundaries. I want them to be the best that they can be in whatever endeavour they undertake. I want them to realise the endless possibilities that lie before them if they but only take the first step.

Tomorrow, one of his seven siblings will be preparing to do something that scares them a little for the first time. In case they get cold feet or doubt themselves I’d share this with them as I did with the volleyball team I managed back at SPC.

To you reading this right now,

*Potential is defined as:

  • Dormant ability
  • Reserved Power
  • Hidden talents
  • Unused Success
  • All you can be but have not yet become
  • All you can do but have not yet done
  • How far you can reach but have not yet reached
  • What you can accomplish but have not yet accomplished

Potential is not what you have done but what you are yet able to do.

As you prepare yourself mentally for the task at hand, know that in you lies a vast ocean of unused potential.

In you lies gifts that you have yet to bring forth, treasures that you have yet to unearth and greatness that you have yet to discover.

Today is the day to unearth the treasures that lie deep within you.

To go where you have not yet gone before.

To do what you have not yet done.

Today is the day that you’ve been preparing so diligently for.

And now it’s here. And it’s yours for the taking.

Will you go back into that cave of comfort that you’ve always been in?

Or will you come out to discover and release the greatness that lies dormant within you?

Will you give the world the privilege to appreciate your gifts and the opportunity to stand and applaud you?

Will you allow them to nod their heads and concur that you truly are a remarkable individual?

Today is a beautiful day to shine.

This is your day.

Now is your time.

-Qarau

Feel free to copy it, add your child’s name to it if you want, print it and pass it on to them for encouragement.

Comment below if you have questions or would like to share your thoughts.

*Definition of Potential adapted from Dr Myles Munroe’s teaching on potential.

When talking to yourself is a good thing and why you should do it more often!

talking-to-yoursel-is-a-good-thingThere’s something about a white Pierre Cardin cotton tee that can make a man feel sexier than he actually looks. And I could almost make out the abs behind the flabs as I watched the shattered reflection of this handsome young man, over a dark brown wooden wardrobe, slip on the hugging pair that his beautiful wife had so generously bought for him. Ooh…such comfort was made for kings.

Standing there in my towel and fitting tee, for some reason I felt compelled to start speaking life and declaring positive confessions this particular morning. So without giving the urge a second thought I began blurting out:

“I am as fit as an eighteen year old. I have a high metabolic rate and I love to exercise and work outside with my hands. I am an intelligent young man. I am creative, handsome and strong. Whoah!! There’s power in words!”

I felt empowered by the very words that I was speaking and it was amazing!

Prior to this whole “I am handsome and strong (you better know it) confession…” I was overcome with a feeling of worthlessness as I sat trying to get some personal work done on my laptop at six in the morning. Suddenly out of the blue I felt frustrated, I couldn’t think and felt like I was running late with time catching up on me.

I felt worthless, useless and lost. What was I late for? My destiny? My calling? My purpose? I guess it felt like nothing seemed to be coming together and I was procrastinating and wasting time. Have you ever felt like this?

How do you deal with this feeling?

Do you wallow in self pity accepting your circumstances?

Do you let it get the best of you and roll over and just die?

Or do you let it fuel the determination in you to reach out and press on towards your dreams and visions?

How do you respond in moments like these?

There was once a young man, by the name of David, who was also plagued with a similar situation. He had just returned home with his men and found it burnt to the ground. To make matters worse their wives, sons and daughters had all been taken captive by the enemy.

What did David do in the face of this devastating situation?

His response can be found in 1 Samuel 30:6

“And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.”

Pressed in on all sides and with no one around to encourage him, he would have thought about giving in and giving up his leadership role. But David, encouraged himself in the Lord. I can almost picture him talking to himself saying:

“This situation is not going to get the best of me. I shall not be moved or shaken. I am a mighty warrior! I am strong. Handsome. And married! – so Cleopatra better stop checking me out! I’m going to get my women and children back!”

I normally tell my kids that people only fall into two categories when they talk to themselves (or when they find me talking to myself).

They are either –

MAD!

Or

BRILLIANT!

Sometimes some situations in life will try to get the best of you and there may not be a friend around to listen, lend a hand or be that shoulder you can cry on. You may be alone, confused and scared or feel worthless, useless and lost like I did.

It is in moments like these that you need to get up and encourage yourself.

It is in moments like these when talking to yourself is a good thing.

But, instead of waiting for those moments…why not start now!

So go on. Don’t be shy! Get up and yell out what you’ve wanted to tell yourself for some time now.

Shake somebody’s hand and tell them you’re good looking.

And if people begin looking at you strangely, just tell them that you can’t help it…

You’re Brilliant!

Start by leaving a positive confession about yourself in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

Do I keep the baby or have an abortion?

Do I keep the baby, give it up, or have an abortion imageI wonder how many women ever have doubts about being pregnant? Or have to decide between keeping their career alive or raising a child? Or have the question pop up in their minds on whether they should keep the baby, give it up, or have an abortion?

This post is about a young woman [whom we’ll call Anne for the sake of anonymity] and her feelings and reactions when she discovered that she was pregnant. Anne is a friend of my wife and written below is their correspondence. It has been edited ever so slightly.

With their approval, I am posting this here in the hope that soon to be dads may gain some insight into what some soon to be moms go through. And also for you soon to be moms out there, may you be inspired and encouraged by this encounter between friends as I was.

Here is Anne’s letter:

Hi Telu [teh-looh],
I woke up this morning and was feeling discouraged. The first person I thought of was you! I dunno how to explain it but I just got drawn to you. So I took my phone, logged in LinkedIn and started reading your husband’s Blog site on Father To Be!!

I was going through a really rough patch! LOL who doesn’t! After reading the articles on Father To Be, I was really encouraged by your husband’s personal experiences.

During my 4th month at work which I was enjoying, I found out that I was pregnant. I was devastated and felt that my career was going to be cut short.

I didn’t want to keep the baby….that’s how bad it was for me! I wasn’t thinking straight at all, I felt lost and I’ve been having really bad morning sickness and lost 10kg in just one week!

Because I was suffering badly, I decided to resign from work. I cried for days trying to find refuge, and just trying my best to spend some time alone with God. I cried and cried so much after realizing that I was deciding to take a life!!! That day I spent with God changed my life! And on that same day, I read your husband’s articles and instantly thought of you. How you handle your life and your kids! You enjoy each and every life in them! I got more discouraged….

And here is my wife’s reply…

First and foremost a hearty CONGRATS for the mini-you on the way (Don’t worry my lips are sealed!) Wish I could hug you in person right now….

Thank you for having the confidence to share what you did with me. It’s not easy pouring out your heart/soul to another and I am privileged.

Isa[Oh] my dear! I know when hormones are running wild and emotions at their peak we tend to make irrational decisions.

Believe me I know exactly how you feel…because I too opted not to keep the baby during my last pregnancy. Yes me! The thought of having 5 biological children with 2 step-kids (7 in total) scared the hell out of me. I knew both my husband’s family and my family would greatly disapprove the rate we were having kids especially my in-laws. I was worried about work having to go on maternity leave AGAIN & how on earth we were going to provide for our 7 kids.

And you know what??? GOD told me to ‘Cast all my burdens unto Him’, that He would ‘Never leave me nor forsake me’ for He was ‘Jehovah Jireh’ my Provider who would ‘supply all my needs according to His glorious riches’.

So 7 months into my pregnancy I decided it was time to leave the career I worked so hard to build…it was time I fulfilled my ‘PURPOSE’. The reason I was knitted in my mother’s womb and brought into this world.

And it’s true what they say about work! You can easily be replaced…but it took 7 years for that to finally sink in. So exactly 7 years of having worked, on the 7th month of 2013 (July) before giving birth to our 7th child – I resigned from my job. It was the best decision I ever made!!!

God reminded me – if He could give my husband the position of Web Designer at an NGO with no degree/diploma, after 5 years of staying at home, studying the bible and learning on the internet …then He could pretty much give me the career my heart desired as long as I lived & breathed His word.

So here I am at home – a full time Mom for the moment nurturing my 7 little purposes whilst waiting to fulfill my calling.

Don’t be disheartened! Count your blessings…for the Lord has said ‘The fruit of your womb is a reward!’

Think of the couples who have been trying numerous times to get pregnant.

Your little one is here because he/she has a purpose. He/She is here to fulfill a calling GOD has specially ordained his/her life for.

In this day and age we worry about career, making a name for ourselves, money, investments etc but in reality if we die today we take none of those with us.

I’m enjoying my children now because I want them to be able to vouch for me as the mother who nursed them when they were sick, held their hand when their tooth was pulled out, read to them before bed time, enjoyed tea time with their imaginary friends, cried & laughed with them, lived life with them.

Look around you…ask the Holy Spirit to take away your morning sickness. Speak life to your child in your womb…cover your husband & family in prayer…commit your baby’s life, the delivery and contractions to the Lord in prayer whilst you are at home.

This is the greatest investment you can contribute to the lives of those you love for now.

Stay blessed my dear! Remain favored…for you are a daughter of the King!

I hope this post has inspired or encouraged you in some way.

Feel free to contact me if you would like to write a guest post or share a story that we all could learn from.

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