What do you do when you are up against the ropes?

Have you ever felt like you had your back against the ropes and didn’t know how to get out of there?A boxer against the ropes
You tried everything you could but still you felt cornered — taking blow, after blow, after blow. Like a live punching bag.
Well I have and still do from time to time. This post is about that. About taking those hits life throws at us and what to do when we are backed up against the ropes.

The thought of throwing in the towel is all too welcoming in moments such as these.

I had the privilege of taking my soon to be 5 year old son Ethan to the public pool over the weekend. This was the first time we visited the public pool together. The pool trip allowed for some bonding time but more so for him to workout.

You see, my son Ethan isn’t walking yet and his speech is slowly improving. My youngest and soon to be 1 year old daughter Ziah has already found her footing. Her older brother on the other hand is still on his fours crawling, needs help propping himself up and relies on what’s around him to help him walk.

He was a little resistant at first but eventually came around and we were able to enjoy ourselves. I wanted him to get a feel for the water. I had also taken his sister Lahneya[2] with us and she was doing well all by herself in the kiddy pool.

When it was time for us to leave, I had changed Lahneya before I had to help Ethan out of his swimmers. Now being nearly 5 means that he definitely is not as light as his younger siblings and carrying him around gives me a good workout.

In a wet little changing room, I was trying to hold him up, remove his swimmers and get him into dry clothes. With him not being able to hold himself up this was proving somewhat difficult. All of a sudden hopelessness crept in and I had this overwhelming feeling of defeat. Frustration had reared its ugly head.

My response to this at first was telling him sternly “Stand! You need to stand up. You’re going to be 5 soon and we can’t keep doing this”.

What do you do when this feeling creeps in?
Do you press on or give up?
Do you accept defeat and throw in the towel?
How do you deal with those depressing moments?
Do you take God at his word or abandon your faith?

I’m sure you have also had to answer these questions or may have to sometime in your lifetime.

Why have I shared this here?
I have shared this here for the lessons I have learned and how I have taught myself to respond to these situations.

Your circumstances or the things you go through in life do not dictate your response. Your response to every situation is critical as this sets the direction you will take due to the decisions you will make.

So what do you do when you have your back against the ropes?
You bob and you weave; if you can; but you don’t give up. Keep moving forward. One step at a time. One day at a time.

You repent. The word ‘repent’ means to change the way you think. If you think you can’t make it through…then guess what — you won’t.

Speak to that situation that’s trying to get the best of you. There is power in your confession. Sooner or later you will reap what you speak.

Psyche yourself up if nobody’s around to help you with that. You’re made of sterner stuff so press on to claim your victory.

My response to the situation with Ethan after I decided not to be discouraged and let it get the best of me was this.

I simply told him:

“You’re going to get up and you’re going to walk because my God is the Lord.”

Note: I chose not to be discouraged.

Whatever happens and no matter how dim your situation may be, do not throw in the towel.

You may miss out on the lessons that you need to learn and the character that has to be developed in you through these situations. I like the way the Apostle James puts it in the book of James 1:2-4

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

I look forward to our next outing together. This will help develop my patience and produce perseverance in me.

I will not back down.

I refuse to back down.

So should you.

What do you do when you are up against the ropes?
Share your thoughts in the comments.

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8 thoughts on “What do you do when you are up against the ropes?”

  1. Thanks for sharing a personal story. I honestly, had no idea what the phrase meant, “Back against the ropes” until I saw that picture, now knowing its a boxing term, I like that you told us to metaphorically bob and weave and to repent. Its never any fun being in a vulnerable position, and I think moving forward, not giving up, and to change the way you think is an excellent advice. Its hard to think like that when you feel discouraged or upset, you just have to try. Thanks for your story, this is something I will pass on.
    Thank you for your inspiration, your making me continue the fight!

    1. Thank you Teelah. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and your being inspired to continue the fight. Press on we must 😀

  2. Very good analogue….it gives simple examples or real life situation and how one could use those example to gain his momentum and face those challenges and overcome them….it may need mere patience, endurance and courage to be positive always on what you intend to do in life

    1. Thank you Pita for your comment. I must admit that patience is not a big strength of mine and is something that I continue to work on.

  3. Thank you for sharing such an inspiring life story of your challenges; there have been times when I too would have loved to throw in the towel and call it quits; the very thought that we have a loving and forgiving Heavenly Father helps each one of us realize our potential to do better, by being patient with our loved ones despite the trials we currently and individually face. I know that God lives, He is our Savior, He paid the ultimate price for our sins, we need to reciprocate in every way we can to endure life’s challenges; for I know that the Lord will not give us trials beyond our strength to endure them well. He will ALWAYS be there for us, no matter what!
    I pray that your family are taken care of spiritually and temporarily because ~ You have FAITH that God is and will always be at your side, no matter what! Let’s remember that our “GREATEST GLORY consists not in NEVER FALLING, but in RISING….every time we fall.”

    I know beyond any doubt, that God lives and Jesus is the Christ, in Jesus’ name….Amen.

    Maria Hussain.

    1. Thank you Maria for taking the time out to read this post and for your kind words of encouragement. And yes the trials that we face are the ones we can endure. The Lord has seen us go over that mountain. We need to see what He’s seen and walk on boldly.

  4. Thanks a lot for the sharing.
    You know I have been reading all the things you’ve been sending when I am in Suva or when I access a computer. So for all the mails I have deleted for the past two weeks, I have somehow managed to keep yours.
    So this morning, a friend of mine lent me his computer so he could attend a court hearing. So here I am reading and thanking the Lord for it. I am thanking him again now, in allowing us his people to share our feelings, fears and even acknowledge that by moving closer or being near him would allow him in us to show that we still have limitations,doubts and even fears.
    He can only do it, not us. So the pain, anxiety has all been worthwhile. We replenish our cups everyday, we’re humans; only one was assigned by God for the many.
    So I am heartened today that someone very close to me is with me trying to show the Lord that I am good company come what may on what he allows in the Devil to suffocate us with. After all, he knows we can surpass it.

    1. Thank you Ratu Isikeli for taking the time out to read this post and for not deleting my email. Your comment has encouraged me both as a dad and as a writer. And Yes! He knows we can surpass it.

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